Father of positive thinking, Norman Vincent Peale said, “Change your thoughts and you change your world.” And true enough, while there are plenty of things that are out of our control when it comes to life, we can always take control of how we react to them and turn them into something more favourable. Here are several ways you can do this.
Rephrase your problem. Always state things in the positive, even – especially – if you’re experiencing something negative. Drawing attention to negativity will only increase your burden, and the more you repeat your complaints, the worse you will feel. So if you don’t feel well or are starting to get tired, instead of saying exactly that, say, “I could use more energy right now,” and “Once I’m fit and healthy again, I’ll be great!”
Remove doubtful expressions and the word “hate” from your vocabulary. While we’re on the topic of always stating things in the positive, instead of saying things like, “I hate it when this happens,” go for saying what you would prefer or would want to happen. Also avoid following your statements with doubtful expressions like, “but I don’t think I can,” or “…hopefully,” and place more conviction on the things you wish to achieve. Don’t allow yourself to wallow over what’s holding you back. Instead, focus on what would help you stand up and keep winning.
Wake up with the resolve to be happy during the day, and end each day by being thankful. Upon waking up in the morning (and yes, it’s always best to start the day early and bright), make a resolution that this day would be a happy one, if simply because you promise to remain just so yourself. Actively engage in small things that keep you happy, like stopping to smile at the clear blue skies on the way to work and listening to your favourite song. Resolve to do something to boost you back into happiness as soon as you sense trouble coming along the way. Then thank yourself for a job well done before you head to bed. Rinse and repeat.
Count your joys and blessings, and bask in appreciation of what you already have. Savour your achievements and seek happiness in the present. In connection with the previous advice, you can make a physical list of things that you feel grateful for at the end of each day. Give your list a once over, a second read if you must, then allow yourself to feel good about what’s been written there. As essayist Logan Pearsall Smith once said, “There are two things to aim at in life: first, to get what you want; and after that, to enjoy it.” And those feel-good thoughts that cross your mind when you do this? Say them out loud. In fact, you should take time to voice out to yourself positive and uplifting thoughts whenever you can.
Treat your body with utmost respect. Keep your body healthy and fit, and remember to include your mind in this as well. There is a close relationship between the mind and the body, so make an effort to exercise regularly and eat good food. It is also a great idea to engage in daily meditation and some yoga to keep your mind and body at peace.
Focus on changing yourself instead of changing the world around you. As mentioned earlier, there are plenty of things about life that are far beyond our control. We cannot change the world wholly and in an instant, but we are the captain of the vessel which is our very own life. When something is getting you down, be the master of your moods and do not allow yourself to be enslaved by the negative forces. Change how you see things and use this opportunity to transform yourself into a better person, thereby improving your life.